Assalamu alaikum dear brothers and sisters ✨,
Marriage in Islam is a deep and meaningful commitment. It’s not just about living together — it’s about growing together, understanding one another, and nurturing a bond built on mercy, love, and respect.
Sometimes, it's the small unmet needs that create the biggest gaps. But when we learn to meet those needs sincerely, we build a foundation that can last a lifetime.
Here’s a deeper look at what a husband and wife truly need from each other — and how honouring these needs can transform a home.
He Needs to Feel Respected
Respect is one of the greatest gifts a wife can give her husband. When she appreciates his efforts, speaks to him with kindness, and avoids belittling his decisions, he feels seen as a leader and protector.
A man who feels respected is more likely to be gentle, generous, and emotionally available. Even small words of encouragement go a long way in lifting his spirit and deepening his love.
"Men are the protectors and maintainers of women..."
[4:34]
She Needs Emotional Safety
For a woman, love begins in the heart. She needs to know her emotions are welcome—not dismissed. When her husband listens without interrupting, holds space for her feelings without judgment, and reassures her during moments of doubt, it builds deep trust.
Emotional safety allows her to feel secure — and when she feels safe, she gives her love freely and fully.
"And live with them in kindness..."
[4:19]
He Needs Physical Intimacy
Physical connection isn’t just about desire — it’s how many husbands express love and feel emotionally bonded. When a wife understands this need without shaming or withholding, it builds closeness. It tells him: You are wanted, you are loved.
"In the sexual act of each of you there is a charity."
[Sahih Muslim 1006]
Intimacy in Islam is an act of worship when done with mutual care, and it strengthens the entire marriage.
She Needs Daily Affection
A wife needs more than just physical touch — she longs for tenderness. Random “I love you” texts, hugs from behind, kind compliments, or a loving glance — these small acts create a sense of being cherished.
When affection is consistent, it nurtures her emotional wellbeing and makes the marital bond stronger and sweeter.
"The best of you are those who are best to their wives."
[Jami' at-Tirmidhi 1162]
They Both Need Consideration and Consistent Effort
A man wants to feel admired — not just for what he does, but for who he is. A husband lights up when his wife genuinely praises his strength, wisdom, or reliability.
A woman wants to feel chosen — again and again. She wants to feel like a priority, not just a responsibility. Thoughtful gestures remind her that love is alive.
Being consulted, heard, and involved in decisions means the world to a wife. It reassures her that she’s not just “the woman in the house,” but a valued partner.
"The most complete of the believers in faith is he who is best in manners. And the best of you are those who are best to their women."
[Jami' at-Tirmidhi 1162]
Marriage is 100/100
Marriage isn’t about giving 50/50 — it’s about giving 100/100 for the sake of Allah ﷻ.
When we honour the design Allah ﷻ placed within each other, we find peace. We find barakah. And we find a love that uplifts both hearts and homes.
"And among His signs is that He created for you spouses from among yourselves that you may find tranquility in them. And He placed between you affection and mercy..."
[30:21]
May Allah ﷻ bless every couple with a marriage full of understanding, patience, and mercy. May we learn to see, hear, and love each other for His sake. Ameen.