Assalamu alaikum dear brothers and sisters ✨,
Marriage in Islam isn’t just a social contract, it’s an act of worship, a path to Jannah, and a means of earning Allah’s mercy.
The Prophet ﷺ left us priceless guidance on how a husband and wife should treat each other, support each other spiritually, and maintain barakah in their home.
Here are four essential ahadith every Muslim should know, whether you're married, preparing for marriage, or hoping to build a righteous family one day.
1. Waking Each Other for Prayer Brings Allah’s Mercy
The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said:
“May Allah have mercy on a man who gets up at night to pray and wakes his wife… And may Allah have mercy on a woman who gets up at night to pray and wakes her husband…”
[Sunan Abu Dawood, 1450]
This hadith teaches that real love in Islam is helping one another get closer to Allah. A righteous marriage is one where each spouse protects the other from spiritual laziness and encourages prayer with gentleness and compassion.
Even the detail of sprinkling a little water, which is a soft, playful gesture and shows that our religion encourages mercy, not harshness, in spiritual reminders.
2. The Best Men Are the Best to Their Wives
The Prophet ﷺ said:
“The best of you are the best to their wives.”
[Sunan Ibn Mājah, 1978]
True Islamic masculinity is not dominance. It is kindness, patience, honour, and responsibility.
A righteous husband reflects the character of the Prophet ﷺ: he is gentle with his words, respectful during disagreements, patient with shortcomings, and loving in his actions.
This hadith reminds men that your character at home is the truest reflection of who you are.
3. Ingratitude in Marriage Destroys Blessings
The Prophet ﷺ said:
“Allah will not look at a woman who is ungrateful to her husband while she cannot do without him.”
[Sunan An-Nasa’i, 9149]
Gratitude protects love; ingratitude suffocates it.
When a spouse constantly complains, criticises, or compares, the marriage becomes heavy and spiritually drained.
This hadith isn’t about blind obedience. It’s about recognising and appreciating the effort your spouse puts in, and not taking blessings for granted. Gratitude grows love; ingratitude kills it.
4. Feeding Your Spouse Is an Act of Charity
The Prophet ﷺ said:
“When a man feeds his wife food, he is rewarded for it. Even when he lifts a morsel to her mouth, it is an act of charity.”
[Sahih al-Bukhari, 5351]
This hadith shows that small acts. Sharing food, offering a bite, caring in simple ways — become ibadah when done for Allah’s sake.
Love in Islam is shown through tenderness and everyday kindness. Charity begins at home, and even the smallest gesture can be written as a good deed on your scale.
Final Reflection
Marriage succeeds not through big gestures, but through small daily acts of mercy rooted in faith. These four ahadith remind us that the foundation of a righteous marriage is:
- helping one another with worship,
- treating each other with kindness,
- practising gratitude,
- and showing love through simple, thoughtful actions.
May Allah ﷻ fill our marriages with tranquility, mercy, and deep connection, and make our homes places of worship and love. 🤍