Assalamu alaikum dear brothers and sisters ✨,
When we think about marriage, it's easy to get caught up in surface - level ideas — how someone looks, what they earn, or how polished their life seems. But when you peel back those layers, what lasts isn’t beauty or wealth. It’s character, sincerity, and the effort to grow together for the sake of Allah ﷻ.
Let’s reflect on what really matters.
Wealth and Beauty Fade — Deen Lasts
It’s tempting to chase someone who looks perfect on paper. But Islam teaches us to look deeper. Wealth can disappear. Looks change with time. But good character and strong faith? They only increase.
"A woman is married for four things: her wealth, her family status, her beauty, and her religion. So choose the religious one, otherwise you will be a loser."
[Sahih al-Bukhari 5090]
Choose someone whose heart is close to Allah ﷻ — because that’s who will help bring your heart closer too.
Love Takes Time to Grow
Marriage isn’t a fairy tale with constant romance and no disagreements. It’s real life. Some days are sweet, and others are testing. But when love is built on patience and mutual respect, it becomes stronger with time.
The small things matter — how you speak to each other, how you listen, how you support one another when no one else sees. That’s how love grows.
Everyone Makes Mistakes
We all fall short sometimes. Your spouse will too. That doesn’t mean they’re not good for you — it means they’re human. Real love leaves room for mistakes and offers forgiveness with softness.
"All the children of Adam are sinners, and the best of sinners are those who repent."
[Sunan Ibn Majah 4246]
Give your spouse the same mercy you hope Allah ﷻ gives you. You’re both learning as you go.
There’s No Such Thing as a Perfect Spouse
It’s easy to notice what someone lacks. But the Prophet ﷺ taught us to be merciful, not fault - finding. Nobody has it all. Focus on your spouse’s strengths, not their shortcomings.
"Whoever does not show mercy will not be shown mercy."
[Sunan al-Tirmidhi 1927]
If you want your marriage to thrive, stop looking for perfection — and start showing compassion.
Build for the Akhirah, Not Just the Dunya
In the end, it’s not about finding someone flawless. It’s about choosing someone sincere. Someone who will help you become a better Muslim. Someone who will remind you of Jannah, even when this dunya feels heavy.
May Allah ﷻ grant us all spouses who are a mercy in our lives, a comfort to our hearts, and a path to Him. Ameen.