Assalamu alaikum dear brothers and sisters ✨,
When we think about romance, many of us picture what we see in movies, novels, or social media. But the purest and most beautiful example of romance is already found in the life of our beloved Prophet Muhammad ﷺ.
Far from being cold or distant, the Prophet ﷺ was loving, gentle, playful, and deeply affectionate with his wives. His example shows us that Islam not only permits romance within marriage — it encourages it. True love in Islam is about mercy, kindness, and building a bond that draws both hearts closer to Allah ﷻ.
Let’s look at how the Sunnah teaches us to bring romance into our marriages.
1. Have Fun Together
Romance isn’t always about grand gestures — sometimes it’s about playfulness. The Prophet ﷺ used to race with his beloved wife Aisha RA She said:
“I raced him on foot and I outran him, but when I gained some weight, I raced him again and he outran me.”
[Sunan Abi Dawud 2578]
This playful moment shows us that laughter and joy are part of a healthy marriage. A couple that enjoys each other’s company will strengthen their bond over time.
2. Show Physical Affection
Aisha RA described how she would comb and oil the Prophet’s ﷺ hair while he rested in her lap.
[Sahih al-Bukhari 258]
These simple acts of closeness are a form of love that brings peace to the home. Small gestures of physical affection — holding hands, sitting together, caring for one another — are Sunnah.
3. Share Intimacy with Mercy
Romance in Islam isn’t shameful; it’s an act of love and trust within marriage. Aisha RA narrated:
“The Messenger of Allah ﷺ and I used to bathe from a single vessel, from which we both scooped water.”
[Sahih al-Bukhari 272]
Such narrations remind us that intimacy should be paired with tenderness and mercy, not selfishness.
4. Acts of Kindness Are Acts of Love
The Prophet ﷺ said:
“You will be rewarded for what you spend for the sake of Allah, even if it were a morsel which you put in your wife’s mouth.”
[Sahih al-Bukhari 56]
Even feeding your spouse — an act so simple — becomes an act of worship when done with love. True romance is in the little acts of care that build trust and affection.
5. Comfort Each Other Emotionally
Romance is not just about laughter — it’s also about compassion during hard times. Safiyyah, one of the Prophet’s ﷺ wives, said:
“He came to me and wiped away my tears with his robe and hands.”
[Ahmad 24139]
To love your spouse is to be present in their joy and in their sorrow. A gentle word or touch can heal wounds that words alone cannot.
6. The Best of Men Are the Best to Their Wives
The Prophet ﷺ reminded us:
“The most complete of the believers in faith are those with the best character, and the best of you are those who are best to their women.”
[Jami’ at-Tirmidhi 1162]
A true measure of a man’s faith is not just in his prayers or his fasting, but in how he treats his wife at home.
To Conclude
Romance in Islam is not artificial or performative — it is sincere, simple, and rooted in mercy. The Sunnah teaches us that love grows through playful moments, gentle touches, shared meals, and words of comfort.
When practiced with the right intention, every romantic gesture becomes an act of worship, bringing hearts closer together and drawing the couple nearer to Allah ﷻ.
May Allah ﷻ bless our marriages with mercy, joy, and lasting love, and make us among those who follow the beautiful Sunnah of the Prophet ﷺ in our homes. Ameen.