Assalamu alaikum brothers and sisters ✨,
When it comes to love and marriage, we’re constantly surrounded by advice — from movies, social media, songs, and even well - meaning friends. But how much of it actually aligns with what Allah ﷻ and His Messenger ﷺ have taught us?
Let’s be honest. Most modern ideas about relationships revolve around personal fulfillment, emotional highs, and independence. But Islam calls us to something deeper: sincerity, mercy, spiritual companionship, and purposeful love.
So here’s a breakdown: Society vs Islam — which one is teaching you how to love?
Society says: “You complete me.”
Islam says: “You help me complete my deen.”
Society has made love the ultimate goal. You’ll often hear things like, “Find someone who fills your void,” or “You’re not whole without a partner.” This puts unfair pressure on another human to heal what only Allah ﷻ can.
In Islam, marriage isn’t about using someone to feel whole. It’s about coming together to grow, worship, and fulfill half of your religion.
"Marriage is part of my sunnah, and whoever does not follow my sunnah has nothing to do with me."
[Sunan Ibn Majah 1846]
Marriage isn’t meant to fix you. It’s meant to help you become — closer to Allah ﷻ, together.
Society says: “Speak your mind. Even if it cuts.”
Islam says: “Speak good — or remain silent.”
Modern advice often equates brutal honesty with strength. Arguments become battles to win, and sarcasm becomes a weapon.
But Islam prioritizes harmony, not ego. In marriage, protecting the bond is more important than proving a point. Silence in anger is better than speech in regret.
"Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him speak good or remain silent."
[Sahih al-Bukhari 6136]
Mercy in speech creates safety — and safety builds love.
Society says: “You don’t need a man/woman. Be independent.”
Islam says: “They are a garment for you, and you are a garment for them.”
[2:187]
Hyper-independence is praised today. Relying on anyone is often seen as weakness. But Islam teaches us that interdependence — with kindness and responsibility — is a mercy.
A spouse isn’t your crutch. They’re your covering. They protect you, support you, and complement your efforts.
Marriage isn’t codependency. But it is deeply connected hearts walking one path, side by side.
Society says: “Post everything. Prove your happiness.”
Islam says: “Keep blessings private. Protect your peace.”
In the age of social media, love is often on display. But the more you expose, the more you invite opinions, envy, and scrutiny.
Islam encourages modesty — even in joy. The most beautiful love stories are the ones preserved from public eyes and shared only with Allah ﷻ.
"Seek help in fulfilling your needs by being discreet, for everyone who is blessed is envied." [Sahih al-Jami’ 943]
Don’t trade peace for performance.
Society says: “Marriage isn’t that serious.”
Islam says: “Marriage is a contract.”
In modern narratives, if a marriage gets hard — walk away. But in Islam, marriage is a sacred bond. It’s a contract witnessed by Allah ﷻ that demands effort, patience, and renewal of intention.
"And they (women) have rights similar to those (of men) over them in kindness."
[2:228]
Marriage requires sabr. It requires showing up — even when emotions are low and life gets hard. But through that commitment comes barakah and deep, spiritual companionship.
Final Thought: Choose Your Teacher Wisely
Culture is loud. Islam is steady. When building your view of love, marriage, and purpose — choose the one that leads to Jannah, not just dopamine.
May Allah ﷻ protect us from misguided expectations, heal every broken heart with His wisdom, and grant us marriages built on sincerity, sakinah, and steadfast love. Ameen.